Just because you date a Christian guy, doesn't mean that you won't end up in an abusive relationship. Ephesians 5:25 says, Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church... If your boyfriend is not treating you with respect when you're dating, there's no way he's going to change when you're married. Girls who end up in abusive relationships often have self-esteem issues and have trouble breaking the cycle. But you are a child of God and he wants so much more for you. The Christianity Today website says that girls should be aware of a guy who:
Check out Lo Tanner's 3 Bible Study Habits that will Change Your Life. In brief they are:
1. Use highlighters
2. Keep a notebook or journal with your Bible
3. Start your study with a prayer.
Her article goes into more detail and has some useful links too.
I remember how boy crazy I was when I was a teenager. It's only by the grace of God that I was able to stay sexually pure until I got married. Thankfully, most of the boys treated me like one of the guys or like their sister. The temptation is real, especially when we live in a culture saturated with sex - you can't turn on the radio or TV, or open a book or magazine without being bombarded. Colossians 3:5 says Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Sex was created by God and is great, but it was designed for marriage. I know it sounds old fashioned, but your virginity is the best gift you can give your future husband. I have no regrets but I know plenty of people who lost their virginity before they got married and they have plenty of regrets.
I have a confession to make - I complain too much. Philippians 2:14 tells us to do everything without complaining. Why do we complain so much when we have so much to be grateful for? It's human nature. In the book of Philippians, the Apostle Paul went on to say that we should not complain and live clean lives so that we will shine like bright lights. If we complain, we are no different to everyone else in the world and our witness is compromised.
If you need some more motivation, perhaps you could set up a complaints fine jar at your house, similar to a swearing fine jar except for complaints. Complaining is being ungrateful, so the opposite of complaining is gratitude. Every time you feel tempted to complain, think of something you have to be grateful for.
Laura Frost is a 16 year old from Sydney who founded the campaign, revival2survival which helps homeless teenagers. The group raised awareness about the issue, participated in fundraising events and collected and distributed donations for homeless youth. You can read more at the Hillsong Conference Blog.
Short and sweet inspirations for Christian teen girls.